I saw this post on the forums today:

Alot of women fantasize being small....fitting into a size 1-6 pant which sometimes may be too small for our men. Sometimes we can even be hard on ourselves based on un-realistic , vanity, goals. We need to start setting our goals/standard/dream size through our men's eyes. The size they want to see us in., and that attracts them.

And it pissed me off. It's unrealistic to set weight loss goals for the men or women in your life. What happens if the one you're in love with breaks your heart, leaves you? The idea of weight loss will be tainted. And if you're with someone who even suggests that you need to lose weight, you're with the wrong person. That person can encourage you, but it has to be your decision first to change. There is a difference between, "Honey, you're getting fat. You need to lose that muffin top." and "Honey, I think it's great that you want to get healthier and lose weight. I support your every decision, and might want to lose a few pounds too!"

Life isn't about fitting the ideal beauty standards our culture has set for us.

I leave you with my most favorite answer some dude left for the original poster:

The size that she can look in the mirror and be happy with herself.